Thursday, August 28, 2014

Memorizing Scriptures

I remember memorizing scriptures as a youth, but that has become a habit of the past then recently I read this quote:

Great power can come from memorizing scriptures.  To memorize a scripture is to forge a new friendship.  It is like discover a new individual who can help in time of need, give inspiration and comfort, and be a source of motivation for needed change.  Elder Richard G. Scott

I loved how Elder Scott said that memorizing a scripture is like forging a friendship who can always be there for you.  I think it is time to get back into the practice of memorizing scriptures.

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Law of Accident

With all the weddings and mission planning going on here, there has been a lot of talking about goals and planning for life in our house.  A few months ago we even did the "what do you want your life to be like a year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now" activity.  Then to add to this line of thinking, the other day in my reading of Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol Truman I came across this thought:

The vast majority of us live our lives by the Law of Accident, that is, by failing to plan we are planning to fail.  We have no goals beyond the short term.  We make no plans.  Consequently, we don't really feel we are in control of our own destiny.  We just hope that somehow things will work out.

It's sad to say it, but that is pretty much how my life has been going, failing to plan.  When my husband and I first got married, I wish that we had planned more.  I have come to realize how important it is to have goals and plans, but to also acknowledge that God can have another plan for you.  I have suggested to my family that it is wise to have a plan, but to also be open to those plans changing.  Let's face it, we all want to feel like we are in control of our own lives and making plans and goals helps us feel like we do have that control.  Feeling like you are in control also includes trusting and accepting when God does change our plans.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Packing My Stuff

I have been having a similar reoccurring dream probably for a year or so where I am at an office job that I want to quit and I am cleaning out my desk and packing up my stuff.  I have been trying to figure out this dream for a long time.  I go to dreammoods.com and plug in different words from the dream and haven't seem to come up with anything that feels right.  The last few nights I have had the similar dream again so I tried again with different words like desk and quit.  Then I remembered that I was packing my stuff, and then packing more stuff.  So I plugged in the word "pack" for the first time and this is what it said:

To dream that you are packing signifies big changes ahead for you.  You are putting past issues to rest or past relationships behind you.  Alternatively, it represents chaos in your life. 

You are feeling overwhelmed with the various things you are juggling in your life.  You are carrying around too many burdens and need to let go.  Consider what unfinished business you have to tend to.  Try to resolve these issues so they can finally be put to rest. 

To dream that you are packing, but the more you pack, the more there is to pack implies that you are weighed down by the endless responsibilities and expectations in your life.  As a result, you are stuck in your current circumstances.

Wow, that was a lot to take in.  I keep thinking that I'm not overwhelmed and doing okay, but in paying attention to my dreams and realizing that I haven't been doing well at my self-care, or what I call my breathe strategies, I can see that I'm not doing as well as I think I am.  Good thing my inner self is more aware than I am.  Time to resolve a few issues.

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

The Time is Now

I remember hearing "the time is now" at my CTMH Convention and currently working with Taylor to get her ready for her mission, the time is definitely now (or as she says, "it's crunch time").  Then I came across this quote:

An old proverb says, "The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago.  The second-best time is now."  There is something wonderful and hopeful about the word now.  There is something empowering about the fact that if we choose to decide now, we can move forward at this very moment.  Now is the best time to start becoming the person we eventually want to be--not only 20 years from now but also for all eternity.

Thursday, August 14, 2014

The Connection Between Worrying and Exhaustion

I've been really tired lately and feeling really groggy in the morning.  This is a problem that I have had in the past and something was nagging me in the back of my brain about what it meant to be really groggy in the morning, but I couldn't quite grasp what it was.  Then I came across these notes I had taken from the hgi.com website and I suddenly remembered the connection.  The connection between worrying, dreaming and exhaustion.  On the hgi.com website they talk about how worrying causes excessive dreaming.  It makes perfect sense if you are busy dreaming all night, you aren't getting into that deep, restful sleep.

To be honest, I didn't think I was really worrying about anything but reading this caused me to step back and look closer at my thoughts.  Maybe I don't worry as bad as I used to, but there have definitely been things on my mind that are concerning me quite a bit.  On the hgi.com website it mentions that depressed people misuse the tool of imagination and I remember my therapist telling me something similar, that I have a really good imagination, too bad it is all so negative.

I guess I was thinking I wasn't really worrying because I wasn't taking my thoughts to the extreme negative like I used to, I was just being concerned about a few things, not imagining a great disaster like I used to.  But now I realize that doesn't mean that I am not worrying at all, so now that I am aware of my worries again, what do I do about it?

Well, the hgi.com website says that people worry because their innate needs are not being met, so I guess I will start there by figuring out what needs of mine aren't being met right now.  Then the website suggests "Focusing outwards on resolution rather than inwards on non-productive worrying."  It goes on to say that action gives life meaning and to set tasks, exercise, engage in fun activities and help others.  I remember hearing something about worrying being inaction and how it can go away with action, acceptance or, of course, both.

On the website it said, "When patients know that their negative ruminations are causing their poor nights sleep and their exhausted days, they are quickly motivated to work to break the cycle of depression."  I am definitely feeling like that, I really want to quit feeling so tired and groggy so time to take action against my worries, follow my Breathe Strategies and make sure my basic needs are met.



Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Am I Crazy Yet?

How exciting is this, Taylor (she has been living with us for over a year and a half) just got her mission call to be a missionary for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  She is going to the Reno, Nevada Spanish speaking mission.  It is pretty exciting that she gets to go to the Mexico Missionary Training Center for six weeks first to immerse herself in the Spanish language as well as training to be a missionary. 

It is going to be a crazy fall, my son getting married in October, my daughter in November and Taylor leaving on her mission in December.  My daughter said people have been asking her if I was crazy yet with all of this going on, well not yet, but I'll see come December how I'm doing.  As of right now, I don't feel crazy at all.  I strongly believe that it is their weddings, so I will help, I will support, but I will not get co-dependent with them at all, maybe that will help!

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Right Person, Right Place, Right Time

I have been getting a lot of questions about how my kids are both getting married soon and how quick it seems to some people.  I have been describing it this way, we believe that families are forever and that dating is specifically for finding the right person to marry.  Through prayer and consideration you can determine if the person you are dating is the right person for you.  How do you know if it is the right time?  I came across this quote and it says it so simply:

"When you have the right person and the right place (the temple), it's the right time!  (March 2013 Ensign)

There is never a "perfect" time for anything in life, but I am really proud of both of my children who, through prayer and consideration, have found the right person, they are going to the temple to be married so they have the right place, so why not now being the right time?!

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Quit Being Your Inner Critic

I've been talking with a friend about how she doesn't have that inner self-confidence and I totally understand that, it has been an issue for me and something that I worked really hard to overcome.  I remember reading the following:

5 ways to turn your "inner critic" into a powerful "inner cheerleader:"

1-Focus on what's working (keep track of accomplishments, give yourself recognition)
2-Look for lessons and opportunities in every challenge
3-Be more compassionate with yourself
4-Focus on who you are, not just what you are doing
5-Keep a winning journal (i.e., where am I winning right now, what am I really proud of, who am I becoming every day, what can I do to be my own best cheerleader?  How can I encourage myself?)

I just love these ideas, but I think the thing that I like the most is the thought of turning your inner critic into your inner cheerleader.  I just love cheering for people, giving them their kudos when they have done something good, giving people compliments and so on.  I know it makes them feel good and it makes me feel good.

I also really like Item 3, being kind to myself has been one of the biggest lessons I had to learn.  I had to understand that I would never let my daughter speak to herself the way that I talked to myself, so why should I let myself do that.

Lastly, Item 4 was really instrumental to me in my healing process.  I actually came up with the line, "be before do" because I was more apt to focus on what I did, than who I was.  The other day I a sign that said, "In order to be happy, be."  I just loved that, another reminder that it is more important as to who you are than what you do.  Becoming myself again was quite a journey and learning how to cheer myself on instead of criticizing everything I thought and did played a major role in my healing.