Thursday, November 14, 2013

Worry - A Debt You May Never Owe

When I was on Pinterest last night I saw this quote:

Worry is the interest paid in advance on a debt you may never owe.

This quote really made an impression on me, especially the last part about how you may never owe it.  I am a true worrying in every sense of the word.  I have been trying to work on it and I am so much better than I used to be.  I used to lie in bed mulling over different scenarios of what could happen in different situations.  How exhausting!  Dean Hawkes had this to say about worrying:

Half the worry in the world is caused by people in the world trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision.

I had never really thought about it that way, worrying is thinking over and over about something that you don't have enough information so instead of doing nothing but worrying, take action instead.  Walter B. Cannon has a great system to get past the worry:

We must equip ourselves to deal with different kinds of worries by learning the three basic steps of problem analysis.  The three steps are:  1) Get the facts; 2) Analyze the facts; and 3) Arrive at a decision and act.

I'm sure I have mentioned this before so I hope you don't mind my mentioning it again, but my therapist once told me that I have a really good imagination, too bad it is so negative.  Worry is just your imagination gone wild.  I have come to terms with my worry and when I start to worry, I tell myself that it is either a past way of thinking or my imagination working overtime and to get the facts first before I go any further with the thinking.  Worry truly is a debt you may never owe, so why try paying it?

Monday, November 11, 2013

Using My Reminder App to Feel Successful

I have been working on getting myself back into a system and one of the tools that I have been really using lately is the "Reminder" app on my ipad.  I tend to bury myself all day in a project, but lately I have been breaking things down into small increments.  So for example I timed my chores and divided them into smaller amounts to do each day.  With my business I have just done the same thing, broken all the tasks down into smaller increments and I even time myself so that I will do a little bit of everything each day. 

I had to laugh at myself because not only was I organizing my days and tasks, but I was organizing the organization of those tasks.  Sounds crazy, but what I was doing was creating forms so that I could stay on top of things.  With my business I came up with a 3-2-1 plan, so that I was ordering my supplies 1 month in advance, creating my samples 2 months in advance and planning the samples 3 months in advance.  The form I created just helps me keep track of that so that I know what to work on next as it seems lately I just don't quite know what to do with myself.  Now I just look at the forms and know what is next on the list, and the best part, I am getting ahead!  I'm also getting ahead on my church callings and household tasks.  If for some reason I don't know what to do next (when I down or overwhelmed this really helps) I can open up my reminder app and look at the list. 

You know it is funny that years ago I lived for my To Do List, I had no spontaneity at all and I wasn't paying attention to those around me like I should have, the To Do List had to get done.  Now my list is more of like my Ideal Day, if things go well, this is how it would go, if not, it isn't a big deal.  I have my tasks on the Reminder app on a repeating cycle so if for some reason I didn't get to something it isn't a big deal and I check it off anyway because I know it is going to pop up again.  If it is important, I leave unchecked until I do get it done.

This system is making me feel better and more like the old me that used to be on top of everything.  The last few years with the depression I have felt so unaccomplished and unsuccessful, but now I feel like I am doing more and being more and I love how that feels.