Sunday, September 30, 2012

Breath of Life

"Spirituality" comes from the Latin word "spiritus" which means "breath" as in "breath of life."

Atonement of Jesus Christ is our message,
Love of God and of others is our motivation, and
Obedience to the commandments and mission rules is our strength.  By sharing the gospel with others, we can give them the
"Ha" -- the breath of life, even eternal life. 
ALOHA -- Honolulu, HI MIssion Motto

Let me Soar

You can soar if you find out who you are and why you are here.  There are two important days in a woman's life.  The day she is born and the day she finds out why.

                                                         --Elaine A. Cannon

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Sometimes All You Can Do Is Survive

Here is our adventure in getting my daughter off to college sort of in slideshow format.

Packing for college
At the airport with all her bags (well, 1 of them is mine)
Got a car rental and then drove for 4 hours
Got tons of bugs on the windshield, so disgusting!
Got her checked in to her dorm, this is her really cool pink bathroom!
Got her all unpacked and set up.
We went to orientation and she got to meet lots of people.
I left her in the hands of darling new roommate to go to their first activity
while I sobbed back to the hotel.
She called me shortly after I got to the hotel saying she wasn't feeling well and then spent
the night throwing up into the new garbage can I got her as she laid on her top bunk.
I went back taking Gatorade and mild foods (this is the day before in her kitchen) to find her with a high fever and still feeling sick.  We got the Gatorade in her but that was it.

She couldn't stand the thought of trowing up all night again in her dorm room so we found the only open room in town for the night and when we walked in this is what we found - a jungle room.

She was able to relax in the crazy jungle room and even slept all night.

I took her back to her dorm in the morning not realizing we had forgotten her key.  We went to the office and no one was there but her one roommate hadn't checked in yet so we borrowed her key to get in her dorm then I ran the key back to the office.  She was finally able to eat and keep it down so that evening I left, again, and sobbed, again.

It was quite the adventure, and sometimes, all you can do is just survive the experience,
and that is exactly what we both did!

Monday, September 24, 2012

Goofing Around With My Sisters

Me and my sisters, I am on the top, back of the couch

My two youngest sisters who I talked into doing a modeling pose for me

We were being goofy, I was the stereo and Jean was rocking out with the headphones

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Listen to Our Inner Spirit

We give in to the physical body becausee it veils the thinking of our spirit. . . .  Thus, the fallen man or woman we appear to be, because we're living under a veil is not who we really are.  We are God's offspring.  - Alonzo L. Gaskill, Odds Are You're Going To Be Exalted

Monday, September 17, 2012

Photobooth Pictures with Stacey

My daughter has been doing a lot of photo booth pictures lately in connection with her duties as a Daffodil Princess and it has reminded me of these pictures that I did with my friend Stacey. This was when we were in high school, so funny!

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Labors Acceptable to God

"There are many of the sisters whose labors are not known beyond their own dwellings and perhaps not appreciated there, but what difference does that make?  If your labors are acceptable to God, however simple the duties, if faithfully performed, you should never be discouraged."  Eliza R. Snow

Thursday, September 13, 2012

Essential for my Sanity

How funny that I would get a great life tip from a kid's movie, but it does happen like this line I heard in the movie Eldest:

It's essential for my sanity to allocate a certain portion of the day for my own interests.  . . . .  No one can function properly without occasional peace and quiet.

I would get so caught up in the doing of life and being there for my family that I didn't realize that I was missing that quiet connection with myself.  No wonder mothers lose their identity, kids clamoring for attention, activities, chores and so on.  I have come to realize that it truly is essential for my sanity to have some time to myself.  Whether it is reflecting and journaling, or crafting and creating, that time to reconnect with my own spirit, my own needs, strengths, weaknesses, desires and more does more than anything else to help me see the path that I am on and what I need to be doing to keep moving forward.  Getting it at different times in our lives is probably the real hardship here.

When my kids were younger and, especially, when I was working full-time I had to really make an effort to get that time.  At work, I would sneak in an empty conference room for my break.  When I was home with the kids full-time, I didn't make that effort, I didn't realize that I needed it.  I would be with them all day, do chores all evening then fall into bed with my husband without taking any quiet moments for myself. 

Once I started therapy and started journaling again (before I was married I was a faithful daily journal writer) did I realize how badly I had lost myself.  What if I had just taken 15 minutes each day to have that peace and quiet and personal connection, would I have fallen apart like I did?  I am not sure, but I am pretty sure that if I did, it wouldn't have been as severe.  It is not selfish to have something of your own and to take time for yourself, in the end your family will have a happier, calmer person around them.  What's that saying, "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."  I didn't realize how true that was until I was truly able to see that sacrificing all for my family wasn't making any of us happy.  Here's to a few minutes to ourselves and to sanity!

Sunday, September 9, 2012

He Will Answer

Talk to your Father.  He hears very prayer and answers it in His way.  When we explain a problem and a proposed solution, sometimes He answers yes, sometimes no.  Often He withhols an answer, not for lack of concern, but because He loves us -- perfectly.  He wants us to apply truths He has given us.  For us to grow, we need to trust our ability to make correct decisions.  We need to do what we feel is right.  In time, He will answer.  He will not fail us.

Elder Richard G. Scott

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Worry, Worry, Worry

In the past, asking me not to worry was like asking me not to breathe, wait, I had a hard time with that too.  Well, I am doing much better, or at least until today.  Today I am dropping my daughter off for her first semester of college.  I had worked with my therapist to help me send my son off to college and then on to a mission and I am wondering if those experiences really have prepared me to send my baby off to college as well. 

My daughter and I have a close relationship, we have done a lot of things together from gymnastics to crafting and more.  She is the "professional opinion" that I need when working on items for my workshops and she is my joy.  I know this is going to be a hard day for me and leaving her this evening to stay for the semester without worrying like crazy will be even harder.  So to guide me, I went back to my therapy notes for the following from the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, by Dale Carnegie:

To banish worry take these four steps:  1-Writing down precisely what you are worrying about; 2-Write down what you can do about it; 3-Decide what to do; and 4-Start immediately to carry out that decision.

Wow, well, its pretty obvious what I am worrying about, and well, there isn't much I can do about it other than trapping her in her bedroom at home for the rest of her life (don't think that is going to happen).  What I am going to do is pray for her safety, talk to her as much as I can via telephone, text and Skype and know in my heart that this is what she needs.

I have shared this quote that my cousin gave me years ago and I would like to share it again, with some revisions:

I have to accept that what my daughter is going through is the only way for my daughter to learn what she needs to know to progress spiritually and doing so takes the drama out of the situation.

I had to do the same thing when my son left for Brazil.  Seeing them move forward in their lives isn't easy for me, I want to hold them close to my heart at all times, but I know that is not what is best for them.  So tonight when I leave her in her dorm for the first time, I will worry, but I will also trust!  Love you punkin!

Monday, September 3, 2012

Jenny & Me in the 70's

Not long ago I reconnected with my childhood best friend Jenny and I remembered these pictures of us in front of my house. These were taken in the early 70's so we have our awesome polyester bell-bottoms on, I have obviously grown out of mine, check out those floods, ha!

Sunday, September 2, 2012

The Righteous Woman

To be a righteous woman during the winding-up scenes on this earth, before the Second Coming of our Savior, is an especially noble calling.  The righteous woman's strength and influence today can be tenfold what it might be in more tranquil times.  She has been placed here to help to enrich, to protect, and to guard the home--which is society's basic and most noble institution.  Other institutions in society may falter and even fail, but the righteous woman can help to save the home which may be the last and only sanctuary some mortals know in the midst of storm and strive.

Spencer W. Kimball